[I haven't messed with it, actually - there might be interactions based on who wished for it, anyway, making it easier to override your own wish than someone else's. That's just one of several hypotheses anyway. Note that we can't rule out the use of a star - just because we don't know how to use them safely doesn't mean it's a mystery to everyone.]

Pause. [No one appears to be stalking you, right? You're lairing and seeing people you already knew, not getting followed or anything?]